"Break Free Day"
"The End"
Turns out that the lady was a manager from a safe house at another state. She came along with the officer to rescue me as well. “Uhm” the lady clears her throat before she could talk to Jack over the phone. “Sir Jack! Can you hear me? This is Ms Jane, the manager of a safe house.” Ms. Jane paused waiting for Jack’s reply. “You guys just can’t do this to me. This is my responsibility and I do have the rights to send Filipina back to her country. I have spent big money for her return ticket and I can’t get refund for it if she doesn’t use the ticket.” Jack explained to Ms. Jane. “We don’t care how much you spend for her ticket Sir. She did not ask for it and definitely you don’t have the right to return her to her country. We are here to help Filipina and this is our responsibility that she will be safe and taken care of.” When Jack realized that he couldn’t stop the cop and Ms. Jane, he was swearing and was so pissed off.
Jack sniffling quietly and said to the law enforcement officer, “Sergeant! I just do not want Filipina to get rich, and none of her family will get some of her earnings, and not even herself. That’s why I want her to go back to her country.” I didn’t understand why Jack repeatedly saying in the last hour ‘I do not want Filipina to get rich!’ what a freaking ridiculous statement!
Even I have treated Jack well in the last 30 months living with him despite his craziness and over possessive and being a control freak, it was his unconscious nature to wish me ill. Jack was the most self-centered egomaniac and self-greed I have ever met. An abuser like Jack is a type of man that doesn’t have the inner capacity to care about anyone or my needs. He truly didn’t care for me! He married me for his self-interest or greediness
“Let’s Go!” said the cop for the third time. “Sergeant John! I’ve got one more thing to say and I hope you will be able to help me out.” I pleaded to the police. “What is it Ms. Filipina?" I was hesitant to tell him but I had to anyway. “Jack my Ex-husband has all my documents, e.g. passport, driver license, SS card, my birth certificate, permanent resident card and my immigration documents. Does he have the right to keep my documents? I would like to get it back from him. What should I do?” the cop replied quickly with strong voice. He goes, “No ma’am! He doesn’t have the right to keep your documents. In that case we can press charges against him. Would you want to?”
I then felt sorry for Jack! I do not want him to go to jail but it gives me something to bargain with him. I was thinking right then that If Jack won’t give my documents back to me, yes I will surely press charges against him. I told the cop that I do not want to press charges against Jack unless he will return my documents as soon as possible.
The cop grabbed the phone from Joe. “Hello Sir Jack, are you still there? Hello! Do you hear us?” Jack said, ‘Yes sir I’m still here.”
“Ms. Filipina told me that you got all of her documents. Just so you know Ms. Filipina can press charges against you and you can go to jail for having her documents on your possession but she wont file charges if you return her documents as soon as possible.” The cop questioned Jack twice making sure if Jack heard him. “How am I going to return her documents if you are taking her away?” Jack raised his voice.
“Sir Jack, you will have to return the documents to us in our office. We will handle this case and if we don’t receive the documents within a month, we will press charges against you. This time it will be the law against you and not Ms. Filipina. Did you hear that Sir Ash?” Jack was grunting on the other line. He seemed to be so pissed off but I didn’t care anymore. The cop said, “Ms Filipina! We will take care of this case. If we don’t receive your documents within a month timeframe, we will press charges against Jack. It is over and we should leave!
Finally, we were in the cop’s car riding away from Joe’s house. Ms. Jane (the safe house manager) rode along with me all the way to the safe house. It took two cops car; one drove me away from the state I was in and the second car picked me up at the borderline between two states. That night I was in a safe place where no one knew my whereabouts.
The following day as I stepped in on the greyhound bus, I had great tears flooding down my check. It was tears of joy because I was finally FREE. The 30 months living with Jack as prisoner, was a short period but it was all hell. I’m glad that I broke free. I felt huge weight being lifted up as the bus drives away from that miserable state I was in. The End!
Thanks God u survived. Living in a roller-coaster relationship, is hard to dwell on in your entire life. Even though u tried to change one's personality or character, if this person was born like that, surely your marriage life will be at stake. SOme say, nobody's perfect. But I do believe in fairy tale,long-lasting relationship. As I followed your journey in this rocky relationship, I was scared to myself. As a single blessedness, I don't know, if can handle such kind of moron someday. Sorry for the term "moron" I used. I just hate especially foreigners who are kind in the beginning of their courtship with those Filipinas. AFterwards, when they drag co-Filipinas abroad, persuade Filipinas to live in their Fiance's beloved country everything change!
ReplyDeleteLuckily all my relatives abroad who married foreigners are happily been married and living in those country..... I salute you, for sharing this story of your life. As your article ends here, as bitterness in your past relationship ended, it means you're a free Filipina now with dignity and honor. God bless. May God guide you in this another chapter of your life wherever you maybe.
Miech thank you for leaving a nice comments here. I thank you for following my story all the way through. It was nice having you riding along as my story grew strong.
ReplyDeleteThanks, it was a nice ride!
Hopefully my story will give hope to anyone who are currently in abusive relationship. There's HOPE and HELP!
Hi Aurora, I just finished your story. I knew your ex husband was crazy but I had no idea you went though such a living hell. Im glad your ok now and you have a nice husband and a much better life!!
ReplyDeleteHi aurora I just finished your story I had no idea your husband was so evil!!! I am glad you are ok now and you have a nice husband and a better life.
ReplyDeleteDean, thanks for stopping by.
ReplyDeleteYes, Jack was more than crazy.
I do hope that he doesn't hurt anyone any more.
I am very happy with my new married life now. My current husband Bob is the best thing that ever happens to me. I couldn't ask for more!
Thanks once again Dean for following/reading my story.
God Bless you and Lenlen.
Wow what a story! I'm so happy you got out of there alive and well and that you are happy in your new life :) You're an inspiration to all abused women out there!
ReplyDeleteThanks again for stopping by and ready my story Cindy! I needed to let the women know who are now in an abusive relationship that there's tons of help out there!
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ReplyDeletei was stumble your story.. i salute you for being so strong, if it happens to me i might cant make it through. YOure such a brave woman, and your faith to the Lord saves you..Thanks to the people especialy your cousin that was there for you and those filipina lady...I wish you well and i know your very much happy now. God Bless you and your family.
hi! i came across your site when i was looking for blogs about filipinas who applied for K1 visa. i got interested with your story and that i can't stop reading it. I am glad you got away from him and that you have found a good guy now. thanks for sharing your story.
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@Carol: Thanks for stopping. Spread the words. Sharing a words can be powerful and we might be able to help others out there!
ReplyDeleteWow!!! I can't believe what you've been through! I was looking for some info on questions about k1visa and stumbled upon your blog and i was glued to the monitor!! I salute you for being strong and out-smarting your wacko ex-husband. Godbless! ^^
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Jen thanks for stopping by and leaving comments. Share my story to your family
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I applaud your strength and courage and a proud filipina. I'm also married to filipina just past 39 years now, she is my world and I ensure I spoil her as much as I can and help her family if she wishes. Your story is so inspiring to others I'm surprised a movie has not been made of your turmoils and liberation to live a good life. Words cannot express the sorrow I felt reading your early life in the U.S. with an abuser, it actually made me so mad that I wanted to go kick his butt so to speak. I'm so glad you found a person who loves you for you, may all your dreams and wishes in life come true and live a long and very happy life.
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DeleteThank you for the encouraging comment. I myself did not imagine that I would be going through a real darkness but God sees me thru all these and even reward me of great happiness more than what I have expected.
PS: Loved your photos of Goldfield, when I was going to Mesa, AZ quit often for my work, I also took my asawa with me and I took her to Goldfield. She had a great time. She said omg it's like a real cowboy place..hahaha. God bless and ingat kayo jan :-).
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ReplyDeleteI just got done reading your story. And its quite long but very interesting and somewhat breathtakingly horrifying. I salute you for being a strong women and keep believing in GOD. Your story really made my hair stiff out. But I am glad to see that you have a good life now and have someone you truly deserve.
GOD bless you and the rest of your Family!!
Its me
Eugielene
Eugielene,
ReplyDeleteYes, my life back then truly was quite an adventurous. There are times I thought that I would not make it through.. Somehow, I'm still alive because God has plans for me. I ghastly amazed of what I've been through. I will bravely say this to some of you if you are in abusive relationship, get out as fast as you can! It is not worth fighting for saving your relationship when you know the abuser will never ever change. No matter how much he says he loves you, no matter how hard he tries, it'll never happens. He won't change.
I just read your story and i am just siting here in front the pc and cry ..... no words i feel so sorry for you. Stay safe and tc always and may good bless you. Lets pray for all the woman in the world who can not get out on situations like that
ReplyDeletePeter thank you for stopping by. It's all behind me now. Yes let's all pray for those who are in abusive relationship and that they would find strength to fight and win the battle.
DeleteGuys like your ex never learn even when they find an intelligent and attractive woman who will put up with far more crap than she deserves. His family (except for one of his sons) is also responsible for the poor treatment you received and if they had any guts they would stood up for you because they knew Jack had a history of spousal abuse with previous convictions. Under the International Marriage Broker Regulation Act of 2005 (IMBRA), international marriage websites must disclose criminal and marital history of American clients and foreigners get a pamphlet about their legal rights under American law. I met my Filipina wife online in 2007 and had no problem with IMBRA because I didn’t have a criminal record which I guess my prospective wife found reassuring. I’m not sure if you could detect any red flags before marrying Jack but it might helpful if you told women how to avoid creeps like your ex with some advice.
ReplyDeleteI know nothing of IMBRA law back then and cherryblossom did not disclose this to me or either it was not a law yet. As far I know, form I-129F (fiance/e petition) Part B, Question number 18 never existed. It is I believe was just implemented recently due to the fact that there are tons of cases that foreign husbands abuses their alien wives.
Deleteand yes, I have written an article about a creepy guys and in fact, this article has become the hottest topic of my blog of all time. Copy and Past the link http://filipinaaz.com/2012/02/eye-opener-for-both-western-men-and.html
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